About Me
Hi, I’m Jen Wolf — an intimacy & empowerment coach, and the founder of Wolf & Lions. I help people who’ve spent years overriding themselves learn to come home to their bodies, their truth, and their desire with more safety, agency, and aliveness.
My journey toward intimacy and wholeness began when everything I had built my life around started to come undone. The identity I had built began to unravel, and my body could no longer carry the weight of ignored needs, swallowed emotions, and learned silence. I was exhausted. I couldn’t sleep. My body ached. My mind felt dimmed. Doctors told me it was “just stress” and handed me labels like fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome.
Eventually, I received diagnoses of Lyme disease and chronic active Epstein-Barr virus. While having this explanation brought some relief, it was only part of a bigger picture. There was also a deeper truth I couldn’t avoid: my body was telling the truth my voice didn’t yet feel safe to speak. It was asking me - insistently - to come home to myself.
Leaving my marriage of 16 years became the beginning of reclaiming myself emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It forced me to confront painful realizations: I hadn’t been taught how to listen to myself. I didn’t know how to recognize my desires, trust them, or take up space without guilt.
In my own healing, connecting with my desire, eroticism, and pleasure was pivotal to connecting with my life force. I was raised in a culture where sexuality was framed as sinful or dangerous, where “self-love” was labeled selfish, and where listening to my needs was discouraged. So I deconstructed that conditioning and learned intimacy from scratch. I began the journey of healing my inner self while also learning to manage chronic illness.
Today, I bring that lived experience together with my training in Somatica and Wayfinder coaching methods to support clients in a practical, grounded way. In our work together, we:
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Learn to listen to your body instead of overriding it
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Practice boundaries and requests in real time (so they become usable in your actual life)
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Build nervous-system safety for pleasure, closeness, and truth-telling
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Shift patterns like fawning, shrinking, over-functioning, or abandoning yourself to belong
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Create relationships—and a relationship with yourself—where you don’t have to disappear
MY PHILOSOPHY
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Your body is wise.
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Pleasure isn’t frivolous.
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Intimacy is a skill you can practice.
What clients tend to experience with me is a steady, grounded presence—someone who can hold intensity without rushing to fix it, and who will help you translate insight into practiced change.
If you’re ready to live with more wholeness, truth, and embodied freedom, I’d be honored to walk alongside you.
Credentials
Trained Somatica® Method Intimacy & Relationship Coach
Trained Wayfinder® Transformation Coach (Martha Beck Institute)
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Trauma-informed practice & relational healing
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IFS-informed emotional integration
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Trained in NeuroAffective Touch® foundations
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Experience With
Chronic illness, identity transitions, religious shame, codependence, dysfunctional family dynamics, attachment wounds, neurodivergence, complex trauma/C-PTSD, narcissist dynamics, inner child work, body image issues, empowered dating, life restructuring, psychedelic experience integration.
We slow down. We get present with your body, your emotions, and your desire.
We talk, we feel, we notice what arises — and we work with it in real time.
You’ll learn how your words, breath, tone, energy, and attention shape intimacy.
We practice communication, emotional connection, boundaries, or erotic expression — depending on what you’re working toward.
This is experiential, not just conversational.
We practice intimacy, rather than analyze it from a distance.
For example:
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Noticing you smile while saying “I’m fine,” while your chest is tight.
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Practicing the sentence, “I need ...,” and feeling what happens in your body when you say it.
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Speaking a boundary or request you’ll use this week—then tracking what comes up (fear, guilt, relief, desire).
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Yes — openly and without shame. Sex is part of being human.
Your desires, fantasies, curiosity, and questions are welcome here.
We talk about sex and intimacy — and when appropriate, we practice skills like communication, asking for what you want, pacing, and touch.
You never have to share anything you’re not ready to. Your comfort and agency lead the way.
No. Traditional talk therapy helps you understand your patterns intellectually.
Intimacy coaching helps you change your patterns through embodied experience.
Therapy works through conversation. This work happens:
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Through the body
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Through relational presence
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Through real-time practice
It’s not just insight. It’s repatterining.
Think of this as learning intimacy the way we learn language — through interaction..
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Then you’re in the right place!
Most clients arrive nervous.
You’re exploring territory many of us were taught to hide, silence, or shame.
We go slowly.
Your pacing leads everything.
Courage isn’t the absence of fear — it’s showing up anyway.
You’ll occasionally receive optional practices that help you:
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Stay connected to your body
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Notice emotional patterns in real time
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Strengthen communication and boundary skills
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Build confidence in asking for what you want
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Because I’ve lived what happens when your body becomes the messenger for everything you’ve silenced. This work helped me return to myself, and I’m committed to offering that same kind of honest, shame-free space for others.
A few examples are:
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Individuals reclaiming themselves after burnout, heartbreak, or self-abandonment
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Couples and partnerships seeking deeper erotic and emotional connection
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LGBTQ+ and kink communities
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People healing from religious shame, chronic illness, trauma, and life transitions
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It depends on the depth of the transformation you’re seeking.
Some clients come for 4-6 sessions to address something specific.
Others stay longer because the work becomes a pathway back to themselves.
We start with a Discovery call. It’s a chance to talk about the work and see if we're a good fit — without pressure or commitment.
Frequently Asked Questions
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If you’re unsure, that’s okay. Most people arrive with a mix of curiosity and nerves. We’ll take it one breath at a time.
